"We keep ourselves in crisis state - adrenaline flowing and muscles tensed, ready to react to emergencies that usually aren't emergencies. We jump to the first feeling that comes our way and then wallow in it. We think the first thought that comes into our heads and then elaborate on it. We say the first words on our tongues and sometimes regret them. We do the first thing that comes to min, usually without thinking about it. That is the problem: we are reacting without thinking - without honest thought about what we need to do, and how we want to handle the situation. Our emotions and behaviors are being controlled - triggered - by everyone and everything in our environment."
... "Reacting usually does not work. We react too quickly, with too much intensity and urgency. Rarely can we do our best at anything in this state of mind."
"We react because we're anxious and afraid of what has happened, what might happen, and what is happening. We react because we think things shouldn't be happening the way they are. We react because we don't feel good about ourselves. We react because most people react. We react because we think we have to react. We don't have to. We don't have to be so afraid of people. They are just people like us. We don't have to forfeit our peace. It doesn't help. ... We don't have to take things so seriously. We don't have to take other people's behaviors as reflections of our self-worth." (Melody Beattie)
Interesting stuff! It's just so fascinating to me that the one night I choose to write about that, about how I want to be as cool as a polar bear, there some help/advice is waiting for me on the page. Life works in crazy ways. For some reason this quote just popped in my brain - "Everything will be all right in the end... if it's not all right then it's not yet the end." Not sure how much that relates, but seems like a nice way to end this post. And if you didn't like that quote, here's another cute little animal for you :)
Want. to. hug. just. can't. quite. reach. |
carpe diem, hakuna matata, no day but today... redhead OUT.
Namaste
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